Mulattea is a blog written by Skye Haynes. Her posts explore mixed identity, feminism, race, religion, and privilege.

I Got Engaged!

I Got Engaged!

Happy New Year guys!

Sorry I've been a little absent, but finals season came and went and then I went straight on vacation to Disney World where.....I got engaged!

My family and I spent last week in Florida trying to forget about the trauma-inducing cold temperatures in Maryland. This was my family's fifth time at Disney, so we've got it down to a science now. Wake up early, go to the parks, leave in the day to take a nap and return at night for late night rides and fireworks. 

On Christmas Eve Carter was adamant that we see fireworks, which he did the last time we went to Disney as well when he surprised me with a necklace with my name on it. He told me to get pretty for the Christmas Eve fireworks so we could take pictures for the #Gram, which was a pretty good excuse seeing as though I'll be using these pictures for the rest of my life. 

In retrospect (and I think Carter agrees) the funniest part about the whole day was how nervous Carter was. We got breakfast at Whispering Canyon Cafe at Disney's Wilderness Lodge that day, and he was literally too nervous to eat. He was unusually quiet except for the moments when he'd mutter, "I'm going to die," or, "I'm think I'm going to throw up."

According to Carter, he had to give himself, "the pep talk of all pep talks," which helped him calm down enough to ride rides and still enjoy the day. 

So anyways, back to the fireworks. We're running late for the fireworks because everyone and their mother is trying to see them. We're weaving through crowds, dodging strollers left and right, and finally we realize we're probably not getting that close to the castle for the pictures. It didn't matter, though, because the fireworks were in the air, so I mean everyone has a front row seat. At the climax of Moana's How Far I'll Go, my perfect, perfect fiance got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. 

When I say I was crying, y'all. I'm talking sobbing. Boo hoo crying. I don't think I've ever cried out of sheer happiness before then. It's funny, too, because Disney proposals specifically make me ugly cry. Look them up on Youtube, you will too. Something about the most magical place on earth living up to its name, man. Waterworks. 

Anyways, check out this ROCK!

Seriously, I'm in love. With Carter, with the ring, and with our story. 

Let the record show that I had the biggest crush on Carter before he even knew I existed. I literally was like a coming of age movie where the teenage girl sees the hot senior walk by in the hallways and she swoons against her locker. I swooned at this dude. I'd always call him "Jake Ryan" a la Sixteen Candles, which makes me Molly Ringwald despite my lack of orange tresses.

But the sentiment was still there— I thought Carter was this super hot senior that would never know I existed and now!! I'm!! engaged!! to!! him!!

(!!!!!!!!!!)

I am so thankful and so blessed to have found Carter, who loves me at all times. God gave me this amazing person who loves me when I'm cranky, calls me beautiful when I know I'm looking crazy, says sweet, calming words to me when I'm having panic attacks, and likes me best when my hair is natural. He's always supported me, uplifted me, and inspired me. And I get to marry him!!

Anyways, I wanted to thank everyone for their kind words and congratulations. I can't wait to start wedding planning (I've had a Pinterest board ready since I was 14) and I can't wait to marry my best friend!

Keep on reading if you want to hear about my wash and go routine and a new product I've been trying.

Wash and Go Routine + Maple Holistics Shampoo!

Here's me getting engaged. Wondering how I got this bangin' wash and go? Here's an extra where I'll tell you about a new product I've been using that was sent to me by Maple Holistics.

I was contacted by Maple Holistics in November to see if I was interested in reviewing their shampoo. Y'all already know that I only have one real concern when it comes to hair products and that's the ingredients. So I researched the company and Maple Holistics uses all natural ingredients and cruelty free products, so I happily agreed. They sent me their tea-tree oil shampoo, which is  only $8.95! 

These products are

  • cruelty free
  • silicone free
  • sulfate free
  • paraben free
  • hypoallergenic
  • carcinogen free

And they're safe for color treated hair with 100% pure essential oils. Also they're madei n the USA. Pretty awesome, right? Below you'll find a slideshow of the product and how my hair looks after using it for the past month and a half along with a review!

The Process: When using this product I first detangle my hair while wet, making sure to exfoliate any dry patches in my scalp. I then apply the Maple Holistics Tea Tree Oil Shampoo directly to my scalp. I don't apply shampoo to my ends or the main part of the follicles because:

  1. I know my scalp has the most product build up
  2. My hair is already naturally dry, no need to dry it out any further
  3. When you wash the shampoo out, it runs over your hair and ends anyways.

I leave the product in for 2 to 3 minutes (a SZA song length) as the bottle advises. Then I wash it out, letting the product run over the length of my hair. After shampooing I apply my conditioner. I'm currently using Carol's Daughter Black Vanilla Moisture and Shine Hydrating Conditioner (available at Target). After five minutes I wash that out, and then I apply my As I Am Leave in Conditioner, some coconut oil, and a little bit of Miss Jessie's Jelly Soft Curls (also available at Target). That's the perfect recipe for a wash and go. Shampoo, condition, and LOC method. (Leave in condition, oil, curling cream).

Pros: As you can see you get a really good amount of product with each unit. The tea tree oil is good for maintaining scalp health and promoting hair growth and strength, which I have noticed since using the product. My hair is officially mid back length (which has been my goal) and I believe it's partially due to this product. I've noticed less hair loss when I'm detangling which is good news for my shower drain! Also— this product is super affordable, more affordable than most natural hair products.

Cons: The first time I used this product it kept getting in my eyes, especially because it needs to sit for 2-3 minutes and boy did it sting. Like can't-open-my-eyes sting. So I recommend keeping it away from your eyes because it really stung. Since the first use I haven't felt that stinging sensation, so maybe this was a mishap on my end. Another con is the website itself. I was skeptical that this product would perform well on my type of hair because the website features a lot of white models. 

Overall I've really enjoyed the Maple Holistics Tea Tree Oil Shampoo, and I'll continue to use it. Its all natural ingredients reeled me in and I have zero regrets. If you're not sure whether you'd be interested in their products, Maple Holistics has a free sample program where you just say which product you want to sample and they'll send it to you for free to try out. 

Thanks to Maple Holistics for reaching out to me!

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