Mulattea is a blog written by Skye Haynes. Her posts explore mixed identity, feminism, race, religion, and privilege.

My Mom Took My Weave Out?!

My Mom Took My Weave Out?!

The unthinkable has happened: My mother took my weave out.

This doesn't sound like the most interesting scenario, but think about my past hair experiences. I used to run away from my mother if she tried to touch my head. It's been years and years since those days, but when she offered to take out my weave I was just as skeptical. 

First, about my weave.

I got my weave put in the weekend before Carter and I took Jamaica. I figured it would be easier to handle than my wild locks, since we'd be down there for a week and I didn't want to do pincurls every night. So I got my fake hair put in. 14 inches, barely longer than my natural hair now. I loved it because it was easy to maintain, thicker than my natural hair, and it always stayed straight!

Until we landed in the most humid country ever. 

Then I became Monica. 

I should've known my natural hair wouldn't remain as bone straight as it's synthetic counterpart. Truly an oversight on my own behalf. If you look closely at my vacation pictures, you'll even notice my hair is strategically placed in a pony tail because I'm a forward thinker. I looked like a mushroom! Frizzy on top, stick straight on the bottom.

Overall, I would advise people visiting tropical locations to leave the weave at home. It ain't worth it, girl. 

Fast forward two months, and that weave was still in my head! I'm not going to lie, I felt too cute with that straight hair, serving all those assimilationist looks. But it got old, really fast. That whole "grass is greener" mentality isn't just about being single or rich, it also applies to hair. All I could see around me were beautiful naturalistas, rocking twist-outs and wash-n-go's (Stay tuned for a post on overnight styles). My weave desperately needed a wash, as I could see the oils physically weighing down on the fake follicles, but I was stuck in the midst of finals and an awful cold. I was glued to my computer, seeing as I have this website, I'm now an editor for CM, and I had a research paper due as one of my finals. Here's an actual picture of me during finals week:

So this is the setting in which my mother said she wanted to take my weave out. Instantly I got flashbacks to that night of endless tears (again, see the piece on my hair story). 

The last time I got my weave taken out it cost like $25 and included a deep condition, but really thinking about it, I could've done all that at home anyways. I talked about it with Maggie, and she said that it'd make for an interesting Mulattea post. Now here we are.

This moment was the culmination of 18+ years of having an interracial child. The moment I'd all been waiting for. When we got ready for this event, we popped Harry Potter and the Order of the Pheonix into the Blu-Ray, gathered hair clips, sewing scissors, a rat tail comb, a paperclip for pulling out the threads, and a regular comb. This is sort of a "What You'll Need" picture like you'd find on Pinterest, but just a little less legitimate.

So with Harry Potter as our guide, we set out to take out my weave. For those of you who don't know how a sew-in weave works, basically the hair is braided cornrow style, with a front section left out, known as leave out. That leave out is what makes the weave look natural, because you can part it however you want. Then a net is sewn on top of those braids. When you buy weave, it comes in tracks, which are wefts of hair sewn together. Those tracks are sewn (with thread) onto the net in straight lines around your head. Here's an example of what it looks like. 

My mom's plan of attack was to take the tracks out of the net, then remove the net, then unbraid my hair. It was a noble plan, but it devolved into a free-for-all where half my head was out of braids and the other half had a net on it. Other than that, though, it was relatively quick and easy. Here's some pictures:

It took maybe 45 minutes tops, to my knowledge my mother didn't cut any of my hair off, and we were able to salvage the hair we took out. So after a good wash, it'll be good to use again! Probably won't though. We'll see. 

Like I said in my Winter Haircare Tips article, weave is a really good way to protect your hair and allow it to grow. I think my hair gained a good three inches while it was in the braids, and it's much softer. I have a newfound appreciation for my curls, since I've missed them dearly. 

Here are the final results with a snapchat filter! I don't know if you can see, but my leave out is still a little bit heat damaged, as the curls look looser and thinner, so I'll probably be deep conditioning it again this weekend (maybe even a hot oil treatment, since almond oil is great for rejuvenating heat damaged locks). The rest of my curls, notably in the back of my head, are curlier and thicker than ever.  10/10 would weave again. 

In other news, I'm officially on summer break! For two weeks. Then I'm jumping right back into summer classes, since I'm currently attempting to graduate early. C/O 2018! Sorta. This summer should be really great in terms of Mulattea content, I have so many fun ideas and topics that'll be full of information, resources, controversy, and jokes. The best combination. Tune in next week!

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