Mulattea is a blog written by Skye Haynes. Her posts explore mixed identity, feminism, race, religion, and privilege.

I'll Be Woke for the Holidays

I'll Be Woke for the Holidays

By the time you read this, I'll be dead.

Just kidding! (hopefully)

By the time you read this I will have taken an 8 a.m. final exam on communications theory building and process— so it's pretty much the same thing if you ask me. Nonetheless, I'm still here schlepping away at my keyboard 'cause I needed some form of procrastination.

During the holiday season, you find yourself reunited with family and friends that you've only seen on Facebook for the past few years. And while you may have seen a few of their pro-trump comments and their anti-POC likes, you might have forgotten just how different you are from your family until this moment where you're sitting across from them at the dinner table and they whisper, "Y'know someone just moved in across the street from us and they're... G-A-Y."

So it's important to maintain decorum and remember— this is your family! You are stuck with them! Problematic or not! So how do you deal with the unrelenting desire to shove some cold hard facts in your family members' faces?

Being Woke

For some people, they might not know what being woke means so this is for them. Being woke means socially conscious or aware. It's like the word "awake." You're awake, while other people are "sleep." It can seem that way when people hear a woman was raped and someone asks, "what was she wearing?" And you're like...

So what's a person to do when people are still talking like it's the freakin' early 1900's? 

Route 1: Grin and Bear It

"I get all my news from FOX. It's the least biased! Can't stand any of the other stuff. They don't have a correct way of thinking!"

I've mastered the art of grinning and bearing it. I've heard some statements that literally made me think I was on an episode of Punk'd. The above is just an example. But to avoid going MMA style on your family in the middle of opening Christmas presents, you just have to smile and think about how soon, they'll be gone but your presents will remain.

Route 2: Full Education Mode

"I'm not a racist but I think black people are overreacting about the whole police brutality thing. My cousin's best friend's wife's hair dresser is black so I can't be racist!"

Be warned: If you take this route, you better have your facts on deck. I'm talking statistics, sources, annotated bibliography, and a powerpoint presentation. If you plan to educate your family members, make sure your logic is sound, your argument is well thought through and critically assessed, and that you come off knowledgeable but not too condescending. I have tons of posts with most of the resources you need to talk about things like privilege, police brutality, and cultural appropriation.

Route 3: Stuff Your Face

Self explanatory. You're here for the food anyways.

I hope you enjoyed this short post I've written a mere 11 hours before my final exam. Just an after thought: This isn't to say our family members don't have the same exact reactions when we talk about new fangled ideas like cultural appropriation, transphobia, and consent. This is just a fun piece meant to make you laugh. They could probably write their own version if they wanted to. But they can do that on their own website. :)

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